Can Men Handle Dating Smarter Women?

[Miss Prime Blue]

Jason Tandro wrote:

Sounds like a keeper . I wish more guys were like us.

Oh, he is.

Well, we want the world to be full of respectful people, including guys.

Because it makes for a happier, more peaceful world and dating experience. I mean ... dating arrogant guys is really not a fun experience ...

If there were less dbags in the world, just imagine how happy more women (plus everyone else) would be!

... although, I suppose there would be less people of (both genders) on maury.

[Jason Tandro]

Respect is key. I get bent out of shape when girls start treating me like crap because they're in a bad mood. I'm not without sympathy I mean, shoot we all have bad days, but when I try to drop the issue and the other person still wants to provoke a fight, I can't help but laugh and feel vaguely superior.

[Miss Prime Blue]

Jason Tandro wrote:

Respect is key. I get bent out of shape when girls start treating me like crap because they're in a bad mood. I'm not without sympathy I mean, shoot we all have bad days, but when I try to drop the issue and the other person still wants to provoke a fight, I can't help but laugh and feel vaguely superior.

Respect is indeed key. That's why when I talk to my boyfriend online, it encompasses the internet barrier -- such as, misunderstandings happen online all the time, and we are both smart enough to not be butthurt and take it seriously.

And, if he did act like a dbag and do so publically like, on one of my websites, such as livejournal, or even facebook, i'd just screencap it to immortalize it for the lulz. Luckily though, he doesn't have that kind of ego problem. He's just a sweet guy. Plus he cares about me, which is a plus.

But, we haven't gotten into any arguments, and if we do have a minor disagreement, he's man enough to realize when he's wrong, and i'm mature enough to realize when i'm wrong, so that's why when i'm wrong, I apologize. Of course, if my boyfriend were less mature and more arrogant, he would ignore that fact and steadfastly believe that it was "ok" to disrespect me, out of his own douchery.

Most of all, he respects me as a person, and because he's met me before, knows exactly where i'm coming from, and doesn't jump to any rash judgements, like some people i've met online, who don't know me in person.

He's coming to see me this weekend. I am very excite. Yes, excite. Without the d. =D

[Jason Tandro]

This is the same guy who you told me about who shelled out all that cash for the hotel room, right? That's some dedication right there. Just be careful that it doesn't turn into obsesssion.

There was this one girl who got pissed at me because I wouldn't look at her on Skype. Jesus, man, somebody has body issues. No matter how often I told her she looked great (and she does. She's got the body of a knock-out) the one time I felt uncomfortable I got a lot of sulking over that. Kinda hurt my feelings considering how much patience I'd shown her over the years. Ah well. With some people it's just "what have you done for me lately" I suppose.

[Miss Prime Blue]

Jason Tandro wrote:

This is the same guy who you told me about who shelled out all that cash for the hotel room, right? That's some dedication right there. Just be careful that it doesn't turn into obsesssion. There was this one girl who got pissed at me because I wouldn't look at her on Skype. Jesus, man, somebody has body issues. No matter how often I told her she looked great (and she does. She's got the body of a knock-out) the one time I felt uncomfortable I got a lot of sulking over that. Kinda hurt my feelings considering how much patience I'd shown her over the years. Ah well. With some people it's just "what have you done for me lately" I suppose.

Yes, he is. Paying for a hotel room when you are visiting someone is usually what you do when you need a place to stay. It's more respectful than "hey can I stay at your place." So yes.

And he actually cares about me, is not obsessed with me, so no. Score one for a guy who has empathy and isn't a douche.

Also, some boys think they can derive respect from a woman by insulting her, and I don't get that logic. I mean, you don't derive respect from your parents by insulting them, correct? "hey mom, stop being such a whore and let me go to the concert!" only men know, that's not how it's done.

But "bitches better respect", I guess.

You know, like they say on Jerry Springer and Maury Povich. Just punch her in the face in a couple hundred times, and you get "respect" ... I mean fear, sort of. If she's not dead. I would guess she'd need to be alive to "respect" you, though.

But anyway, back to the topic of men feeling denounced because the opposite sex has the ability for intelligence: like I said, a strong and secure man wouldn't feel such a thing. I don't see why they would, if they were secure in themselves.

[inferiare]

Hooookay. So I'm getting some not so nice vibes - both of you. Thinly veiled snipes are not acceptable around here. If there's problems, sort them out privately. Even better that we're in this forum topic. I would suggest respecting each other and hear each other out. If a compromise or apologies or anything can't be achieved, move on and ignore each other. No more thinly veiled attacks or snipes.

Course, if I'm wrong about this, just take this as a warning across the board.

[Jason Tandro]

inferiare wrote:

Hooookay.

So here's the earth. It's chillin'. Dang that is a sweet earth you might say.

WRONG!

So ruling out the ice capes melting, meteors becoming crashed into us, the ozone leaving or the sun exploding, we're definitely going to blow ourselves up.

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I'm sorry, I got very off track there.

[EverPhoenix]

psychokind wrote:

nah really, I don't think one wants a partner clearly more stupid than himself.

if i may bring it back to this for a minute...

i agree with this point here. in a serious relationship, you would most likely want someone who you can connect with on more than one level - someone you can share your thoughts with, talk to, and not just have physical relations with. so, you would probably seek someone who is intelligent and capable of holding an intelligent conversation.

[Miss Prime Blue]

inferiare wrote:

Hooookay. So I'm getting some not so nice vibes - both of you. Thinly veiled snipes are not acceptable around here. If there's problems, sort them out privately. Even better that we're in this forum topic. I would suggest respecting each other and hear each other out. If a compromise or apologies or anything can't be achieved, move on and ignore each other. No more thinly veiled attacks or snipes. Course, if I'm wrong about this, just take this as a warning across the board.

Well, I have no idea what this topic has to do with anything Jason is referring to, so I took that up with him in a PM that he sent to me and I replied to.

But as for the topic, before it was derailed, like I said, I see no reason like the article describes, why some men have this problem.

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if i may bring it back to this for a minute... i agree with this point here. in a serious relationship, you would most likely want someone who you can connect with on more than one level - someone you can share your thoughts with, talk to, and not just have physical relations with. so, you would probably seek someone who is intelligent and capable of holding an intelligent conversation

I could not handle dating an idiot, but some women like that. I see no reason why. Why the hell would you want to date anyone you see as below you? like, I cannot grasp why some men prefer to date stupid women.

Except for the fact that some men are so insecure that dating a dumb woman somehow makes them feel better because they will always win an argument? not sure, but it's pretty ridiculous.

[Flamez]

For a relationship with any meaning, it comes down to personality, not so much 'smart'.

Hell, smart can mean anything; what defines smart? Is it the ability to multiply any number in a matter of seconds? is it being able to sell drugs on a street corner, and never get caught? is it the ability to over think what smart is?

My point being, someone doesn't need a college degree to be 'smart'.

What does everyone here think smart is?

That being said, a person who can get my sense of humor and bit of geeky knowledge and has a bit of a personality to back it up with is what I'm after in a relationship...

and being female, with a pulse (preferably).

[Miss Prime Blue]

Flamez wrote:

For a relationship with any meaning, it comes down to personality, not so much 'smart'. Hell, smart can mean anything; what defines smart? Is it the ability to multiply any number in a matter of seconds? is it being able to sell drugs on a street corner, and never get caught? is it the ability to over think what smart is? My point being, someone doesn't need a college degree to be 'smart'. What does everyone here think smart is? That being said, a person who can get my sense of humor and bit of geeky knowledge and has a bit of a personality to back it up with is what I'm after in a relationship... and being female, with a pulse (preferably).

Absolutely right. I am kind of tired of people acting as though a degree is the only sign of intelligence.

I don't have a degree (yet, working on it), but i'm by no means uneducated. A lot of people can't make this distinction.

[Manibrandr System]

Now to answer the question, can people handle a polygamous relationship?

[Miss Prime Blue]

Valerie Valens wrote:

Now to answer the question, can people handle a polygamous relationship?

Depends on the person/people and what they want from the relationship.

[Manibrandr System]

Yeah, I personally don't see any reason why it would be patently wrong. The same rules of fidelity apply too.

[EverPhoenix]

it also depends on what your explicit definition is. if you expect your (many) partners to be faithful only to you, then it is unfair. if you realistically expect them to pursue such relations with others, and have no issues with that, then i dont see where the problem is.