What Constitutes Cheating?

Jason Tandro · Sun Sep 19, 2010 6:45 am

I am a one woman kind of guy. When I'm with a girl (psychotic though she may be) I would never do anything with another girl.

But there are many schools of thought.

There is the Very Open belief which is that you can have sex with another person as long as its just to fulfill sexual desires and you get your emotional fulfillment from your partner.

There is the Open mindset which says you can make out, but not sleep with, another girl/guy and it doesn't constitute cheating.

There is the Traditional mindset which I have, which basically says anything more than a hug or maybe a kiss from a very close friend is cheating.

And then there is the Closed mindset which means you cannot have any physical contact with another woman who isn't family while you are dating.

I hesitate to mention Very Closed where some girls actually believe that (ahem) taking care of it yourself is cheating...

Discuss.

psychokind · Posted: Sun Sep 19, 2010 7:24 am Post subject:

somewhat between open and traditional. traditional is too strict, but you can't make out with somebody and not call it cheating

EverPhoenix · Posted: Sun Sep 19, 2010 8:16 am Post subject:

id call cheating anything above and including making out with someone who isnt your girlfriend.

chicken · Posted: Sun Sep 19, 2010 11:38 am Post subject:

Freedan · Posted: Sun Sep 19, 2010 5:42 pm Post subject:

Where does flirting factor in to that?

I'd say 'traditional', with flirting allowed. I probably wouldn't encourage it, but I wouldn't have a huge problem if my gf flirted with another guy (as long as it sticks to words and never goes beyond, and she was honest with me about it). Though she's not particularly the flirting kind, so I don't have much to think about there.

Flamez · Posted: Sun Sep 19, 2010 9:29 pm Post subject:

Same as psy, between open and traditional. Making out with someone else is definatley cheating

Miss Prime Blue · Posted: Mon Sep 20, 2010 2:08 am Post subject:

flirting, kissing, sex, rubbing, online flirting, cyber sex, phone sex ... erm, pretty much all of those.

tay120n64 · Posted: Mon Sep 20, 2010 2:37 pm Post subject:

Really, any sort of flirtatious or sexual contact directed at anyone other than your lover is cheating.

However, what constitutes as flirting is a question in and of itself. If you treat a person well, by which I mean to say better than you typically would, and you do so in the hopes of there being some sort of return, then I would call that flirting. Being "overly friendly" with someone who is already your friend or "acting cute" to get attention really says more about an individual's personality than it does their faithfulness.

As for, ahem, "taking care of oneself"... Yeah, that's not cheating. Nor is "Visual Aid". However, in the case of "visual aid", I do believe it is important for your lover to be comfortable with the fact that you use it.

Posted: Mon Sep 20, 2010 5:07 pm Post subject:

I'm a one-guy kind of girl. I'm really very selfish

course, if my guy wants to spank one to porn? That's fine. Getting it on with a real girl though? Lol no.

Mantaray · Posted: Mon Sep 20, 2010 6:36 pm Post subject:

physical contact with someone you're not dating is fine, as long as it doesn't involve the lips or groping or anything like that. sex is a no-no. especially before marriage. to get out their sexual desires alone is not an excuse to do it with other people xD

Flamez · Posted: Wed Sep 22, 2010 11:36 am Post subject:

After having a think about this on the bus I worked out the correct answer.

Cheating is what ever SHE thinks cheating is, your opinion doesn't matter what so ever in this situation

(unless your Raini and Miss Prime Blue in which case you are both right!)

EverPhoenix · Posted: Wed Sep 22, 2010 11:48 am Post subject:

Flamez wrote:After having a think about this on the bus I worked out the correct answer.

Cheating is what ever SHE thinks cheating is, your opinion doesn't matter what so ever in this situation (unless your Raini and Miss Prime Blue in which case you are both right!)

looking at it realistically... good man

tay120n64 · Posted: Wed Sep 22, 2010 11:52 am Post subject:

EverPhoenix wrote:
Flamez wrote:After having a think about this on the bus I worked out the correct answer.

Cheating is what ever SHE thinks cheating is, your opinion doesn't matter what so ever in this situation (unless your Raini and Miss Prime Blue in which case you are both right!)
looking at it realistically... good man

I could argue with this all day, but I can't argue with it at all.

Posted: Wed Sep 22, 2010 3:21 pm Post subject:

Lmfao. This is like "do these jeans make my ass look fat"; there IS no right answer!

Kidding, of course.

Flamez · Posted: Thu Sep 23, 2010 4:34 am Post subject:

You didn't need the Jeans for that

/dead