The mystery that is the woman mind.

Fazermint · Wed Jan 19, 2011 11:45 am

All right, something a little weird happened to me at school some days ago. It doesn't bother me, but I am but a man trying to figure out the mystery that is the woman mind.

So here's what happened:
In class, we had some old professor doing a rather failed attempt on getting to know the names of the 90 students of my class. He wanted us to write our names on a piece of paper and put it on our desks. Half of the class of course didn't bring any paper, and started asking their neighbors for some paper. I was sitting next to a girl that I'd never seen before (happens a lot when there are 90 students in your class). The guy next to her on the other side asked if he could have a paper from her. She smiled and said "Sure", and gave him one. All right, she has paper, I thought. "Can I have one, too?" I asked. But instead of smiling and saying "Sure" like she did to the other guy, she stared right in front of her, as if she didn't hear me. I was about to ask again, when she ripped out a paper and pushed it my way without even looking at me. Then some other guy asked her, and she smiled again, but said she was out of paper.

It made me wonder why she smiled to the other guys but acted so cold towards me. She looked like I had forgotten her birthday or something... I came up with several theories, but I scrapped them all.

1. She was (almost) out of paper
After she had given me a paper, another guy asked for one as well, but she was out of paper. Maybe she didn't feel like giving out her second last paper either. I settled on it for a minute, but 5 minutes later she pulled out another block of paper and started writing in it. She wasn't out of paper, dude.

2. I was very unattractive
Maybe she thought I was SO ugly that she didn't even want to look at me. I'm no handsome guy, but honestly I wouldn't call myself ugly either. More average. Some girls have acted like bitches towards me because they thought I was ugly, so I didn't immediately scrap this theory. But the guy next to her was fat with curly hair. I have nothing against fat people, but I do believe that women find that less attractive. She didn't seem to think HE was ugly.

3. She knew the other guys, that's why she smiled at them
Maybe the other two guys were her friends, which was why they didn't get the Cruella treatment. But a minute later the professor pushed a Say-the-name-of-the-person-to-your-left-game on us, and I heard the curly hair guy that sat next to her say "I don't know your name". Scrapped.

4. I smelled bad
I thought that might have been it. I of course couldn't check out my armpits in the middle of the class, so I left it at that. I went the whole day thinking I smelled bad. Until I came home, when my girlfriend hugged me and said I smelled nice

Scrapped.

Anyone got any more ideas?:P

psychokind · Posted: Wed Jan 19, 2011 12:38 pm Post subject:

she hates you because you said sth bad before thinking she wouldn't witness?

Fazermint · Posted: Wed Jan 19, 2011 1:38 pm Post subject:

psychokind wrote:she hates you because you said sth bad before thinking she wouldn't witness?

The thing is, I had never seen her before so I don't know how I could have offended her 0.0

psychokind · Posted: Wed Jan 19, 2011 2:34 pm Post subject:

Fazermint wrote:
psychokind wrote:she hates you because you said sth bad before thinking she wouldn't witness?
The thing is, I had never seen her before so I don't know how I could have offended her 0.0

Miss Prime Blue · Posted: Wed Jan 19, 2011 4:15 pm Post subject:

Often times the "mysteries" that we think exist in the opposite gender are really not mysteries ... they just involve knowing about the human mind in general.

Maybe she didn't smile at you because everyone was asking her for paper, and she was to busy to smile?

Posted: Wed Jan 19, 2011 6:32 pm Post subject:

I don't think that was it since she acted like she was ignoring him before she shoved paper at him.

Though the unattractive thing might be viable. Girls find weird things attractive (well, ok, not weird things) about guys so I'm not sure if something about you to her was just not right in her mind. I don't get girls either and I AM a girl.

Freedan · Posted: Wed Jan 19, 2011 6:34 pm Post subject:

Maybe since you asked right after the other guy, she was pissed that everyone seemed to be asking her for something.

Do you know if she was actually out of paper? Because after being asked a third time, she may have just faked a smile and lied to avoid handing out more.

Miss Prime Blue · Posted: Wed Jan 19, 2011 6:36 pm Post subject:

maybe she was pissed/annoyed about giving out all her paper? lol

SoulBlazerFan · Posted: Wed Jan 19, 2011 6:42 pm Post subject:

I knew an attractive girl that liked fat guys. I'm fat, but I mean Fat Albert fat.

That said, she might've been annoyed that everyone was asking her for paper. Afterall, you were all in a classroom, so why didn't the three people around her have paper when they knew full well they needed to be in school? It could just be she was annoyed that not a single person around her had brought paper with them to school?

Either that, or you're one brutal lookin' dude.

Posted: Wed Jan 19, 2011 6:46 pm Post subject:

Freedan and SBiF have some good ideas there.

tay120n64 · Posted: Wed Jan 19, 2011 6:56 pm Post subject:

My guess would be that it was because of how you asked. Someone turned to her and asked for a piece, then, instead of asking for a piece separately or turning to another person and asking, you said "Can I have one, too?"

Almost as if you were entitled to it, or as if you were a part of their, albeit brief, conversation. Its mildly arrogant and presumptuous to ask a favor like that. I imagine it annoyed her quite a bit, especially given the validity of your observations.

FYI: I'm not meaning to be an ass or anything, but more than likely, this is what was subconsciously going through her mind.

Miss Prime Blue · Posted: Wed Jan 19, 2011 6:58 pm Post subject:

tay120n64 wrote:My guess would be that it was because of how you asked. Someone turned to her and asked for a piece, then, instead of asking for a piece separately or turning to another person and asking, you said "Can I have one, too?"

Almost as if you were entitled to it, or as if you were a part of their, albeit brief, conversation. Its mildly arrogant and presumptuous to ask a favor like that. I imagine it annoyed her quite a bit, especially given the validity of your observations.

FYI: I'm not meaning to be an ass or anything, but more than likely, this is what was subconsciously going through her mind.

Could be that. Also, not everyone is always entitled to smile and give out free paper.

EverPhoenix · Posted: Thu Jan 20, 2011 1:23 am Post subject:

that is just... weird. maybe it was the way you said it? tay might be onto something. i dont think her not having any paper would be an issue.

or... was something else going on in the room at the time? maybe she was just focusing on something else.

...bah, girls confuse the shit out of me.

Fazermint · Posted: Thu Jan 20, 2011 3:33 am Post subject:

She was indeed out of paper at first, but 5 minutes later she pulled up a clean block again. It seems childish to me that she'd be annoyed because of the actual loss of sheets...

The way I said it? That might be true. Very childish, but possible nonetheless. I always get nagged at for saying things "the wrong way" to my girlfriend. You're not supposed to say sorry, but sorry.

@EverPhoenix, the only thing going on in the classroom was that the professor tried to make his computer work. Really, when I asked her for a paper her face just darkened, as if I had killed her dog or something.

tay120n64 · Posted: Thu Jan 20, 2011 12:13 pm Post subject:

I'm absolutely certain it was the way you asked.

And women aren't complicated at all. At its core, psychology is psychology, and its more beneficial to know how an individual thinks regardless of gender.